Love doesn’t cost a pennyΒ 

Happy Couple goals

Hear Ye!  Hear Ye!!  Hear Ye!!!

I’m just trying to help some of us understand what sustaining a relationship or being in a relationship is all about. Because the type of relationship I see floating around, it’s so annoying. But I ain’t no relationship expert, what do I know?  *tongue click*.

Let this be known that love doesn’t guarantee the success of a relationship neither does it cost any thing. 

Enough said

Love cannot help you stick  to one person all year round, and on the other hand, “cheating” isn’t always a product of not loving your partner. 
In fact, loving someone doesn’t guarantee not falling in love with someone else.

Two becomes one

Relationships work out mostly because of our head not our heart. It works out because of our emotional maturity, empathetic intelligence and self discipline because, time will come when you’ll see more beautiful, handsome, romantic, intelligent, sexy, rich, curvy and God fearing people than the one you’re in a relationship with.

In those times, love will not help you one bit (at all); self control will help you, emotional intelligence will come to your rescue and commitment will keep you going. With these characteristics, no matter how you feel for someone else, the person you’re committed to will be ranked first in your life. But that wouldn’t stop or kill the love or feelings you have for others.

Budding relationship

You think happily married people don’t see better people than the ones they married?  

You think they don’t feel funny sometimes?

 You think they don’t catch feelings? Nwannem they do!

But understanding that commitment is greater than feelings is the great arsenal that do destroy that impulse.

You can fall in love with anyone, but building a relationship takes absolutely more than what attracted you to them and takes more than love.

We are too fond of loving when it’s convenient and sweet. We are too fond of loving when love is there but that can only last for just the first 3-6 months of the relationship. After then, you’ll realise that the feelings have dropped, it’s now your responsibility to make it work, not love’s responsibility.

Happy couple

Relationships cannot be readymade. You have to build it and it’s never always about love, it requires commitment and intelligence. On the long run in marriages, it’s not just love that keeps them together forever, it’s determination and commitment.

No restrictions

Everyone falls in love; it takes little or no effort to do that. But staying in love? Building a relationship? Only the strong and committed ones do that.
That’s why we must find that one person and commit to that one, discipline yourself and bridle your emotions.

Building a relationship is hard work, it’s like building a career, It’s like pursuing a dream. It’s  always tough, at some point it will be so bitter but you can make it work by putting your heads together, you can scale through the trying time by being focused and committed. I give it up to all parents especially mine, at times I ask and wonder how they kept it working, and I was made to understand most of what i know from them, they were just like loving siblings.

Break no hearts

The kind of love that attracts two people together is not the kind of love that will keep them together. Be emotionally strong and be self disciplined. 
That’s why i share this with the young adults, married and unmarried couples, in order not to make the mistake in giving up on him or her, key word is determination and commitment, so we don’t have an excuse for divorce and violence. 

This was sent in by 
Chipson Osita ; IG: @chipson_ciroc

He is well read and loves to share his thoughts on random topics. But very much involved in the entertainment industry. 

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Letter to my 18year old self

Baby face

I am so thankful for my experiences as I embarked on my journey as a young adult. There are some memories I wish I could replay everyday for the rest of my life and there are others I wish I could erase completely. All of my memories have so far helped to shape me into who I am today. 
To my 18years old self, I have these for you;
Before knowing others, you have to know yourself. Making mistakes is good, that’s how you learn. Be kind with yourself and others. Try to do as many new things as you can. Learn to listen and practice patience because patience is key. 

Grow up

It is important that you learn how to forgive. And this is a blessing. Harboring resentment against another will only hurt you and hinder your ability to function in your every day life. Do not let it have a control over your life. 

Appreciate your parents because they know what they’re talking about. If mum nags so much about grooming yourself, tidy your room, bath regularly,brush your teeth regularly, scrub under your arm properly to avoid foul smell and bumps. Please do, it’s normal for her to nag at you for she means well for you. I’ve too often brushed over their advice and as I look back, I’m grateful I did most of it and don’t regret a thing.

Take no one for granted

Remember, do not take people or things for granted because not all things or people stick around forever. Enjoy and appreciate them while it lasts. There is much more to the universe than yourself so don’t be self absorbed to avoid words like “I wish I knew”.
Study and work hard, it’s so cool to be smart don’t ever give up that for anyone. Did you know that being smart is the new sexy?
Be self confident but not filled with pride. Sweetheart, do not be afraid to speak to a large crowd, focus on your qualities and not your flaws. A confident woman is irresistible.

Be confident

Always remember to pray without ceasing. Pray with faith for everlasting happiness and joy, pray for good health and wisdom to be successful, pray for a forgiving heart and pray for unending love. Things will get better, don’t break a sweat.

 If it’s wrong, be brave enough to do what’s right. Encourage yourself to take more chances and accept your flaws, since you’ll learn a lot from them. Also trust your instincts and do what you like for a living with advice from mum and dad. 

Break a leg

Get super equipped with skills that will help you land a home run in life. Your future self will thank you later.

You will grow into your own skin and discover who you really are. And then you will own that identity. 

You will be just fine. Even though now you’re okay where you are. So breathe, keep doing your best and enjoy being You. 

Love from your older self 😘 😘 

PS; pardon my not so professional pictures. But I hope you love the colorful ones I chose from my gallery.

Our PVC, Our Strength.

National Youth Council of Nigeria

Democracy as they say; is a government of the people by the people and for the people. This is why the electorates endure for a period of years to choose their leaders through ballot, whether they perform well or not. This is the major reason for the establishment of the Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC). 

Deputy director (NYCN) Obinna Brown (centre)

Democracy can not be complete, except proper election of people who handles the affairs of the economy and governance are elected through the ballot, which before an election, certain indispensable electoral process has to be considered and carried out like the registration and collection of Permanent Voters Card (PVC). 

Comrade Murtala Muhammed Gamba (Gamji), the President of the National Youth Council of Nigeria (NYCN),which is an apex body and mouth piece of Nigerian youths both home and in the diaspora is one of the 18 directorates established under his leadership. Comrade Murtala to oversee the political affairs of the youths and to promote good governance and encourage positive political participation of the youths in the country which electoral matters is one of their huge responsibility.

NYCN team during a meeting in Abuja

Permanent Voters Cards (PVC) is the mandate, weapon and strength of electorates during general election to help in the selection of their own candidate. And before election, it is ensured that the registration and collection of PVC’s by masses from ages 18years and above to enable them participate as adult citizens of the Federal Republic of Nigeria. 

Comrade Murtala in a meeting held on 9th May, 2017 in Abuja has recommended that INEC as a body be  saddled with the responsibility of  increasing the awareness of the registration process of PVC with good information on deadline to motivate the masses. And also mobilise enough staffs to various centres early, so as to hasten the process and record a success. 

Appreciation letter

In appreciation, the entire team of the NYCN expresses huge gratitude towards their leader,who has offered sustainable moral support to the team. The chairman/CEO of Charles de great Nigeria limited, Dr Charles chukwu from mmaku-ugwu in Enugu state.  

Wining elections starts from mobilisation of electorates for INEC as voters registration. Let’s all come out in mass for this exercise and not limit ourselves to social media political agents. 

Our PVC, Our Strength. 

God bless Nigerian youths.

God bless Federal Republic of Nigeria. 

Build the youths, build the Nation!

By Comrade Omoleye Moses Adedotun – director (NYCN) & Comrade Obinna Nwaka – deputy director (NYCN). 
It is a political matter oooo

How Embarrassed have you been?

Oh my!

Everyone gets embarrassed in their life, no one can beat their chest and say he or she have never been embarrassed in their entire life here on earth. You’ve probably even been embarrassed a couple of times already today πŸ˜‚.

Just kill me πŸ˜‚

There’s nothing wrong with getting embarrassed, its only that we all prefer if these most common things were to happen less often, true or false?. 

Well…. I have a thousand and one embarrassing moments, that when I sit alone with my thoughts, I smile or laugh out loud at the thoughts that crosses my mind. I’m sure we all have such moments too. 

 A lot of times, when I get dressed in the morning, especially when there’s no power supply, I wear my blouse inside out and realise it half way through the day. I just go to the restroom and do myself the honors of changing it (So annoying after all compliments).

So annoying 😑

I remember drifting into my own world while having a boring lecture given by a boring professor back in my uni days. I was caught smiling sheepishly at myself by the professor. Wondering what amused me at the moment, he pointed at me to stand up and asked i repeat the last sentence he made to the one thousand and something students in class. I literally died πŸ˜‚ because I didn’t hear a thing he’s been saying all afternoon. 
I have stopped waving back at people who call me from a moving bus or any other style of getting one’s attention. It is so annoying because I don’t get to see who it is I am waving at. Most times, it isn’t me they are waving at but because the person seems to be smiling at me, I wave back before I noticed it isn’t me. I don’t understand how people enjoy calling someone they know from a vehicle 😑. 

😑 😑 πŸ‘‹

This happens to me when I am so stressed out that I wonder if I’m mentally stable. I can be lost in thought when my brain is over cooked and walk by a turn that will take me to where I’m going to. When I discover this, I’ll stylishly ask around like I’m lost and turn around to the right direction. 
My stomach can growl for eternity. It always wait until every where is quiet to do the rumble roar in the jungle to be heard by everyone around making them think it’s a loud fart. Especially when you’re sitting with a  cute date arghhhh (man crush).

Friends can be mean 😑

I have tripped lots of times (I walk too fast), I have been splashed dirty water several times by vehicles on my way to work by reckless drivers (my friends say it’s bad luck and laugh at me), I am the grand master of spilling food or drink on my clothes, I hate to eat roasted and boiled corn when I’m out cos I don’t have the time to pick my teeth. 
So many embarrassing moments to share πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚. I’m sure you’re laughing out loud cos it’s happened to you as well. 

Awwwww ☺

Be it interesting, funny, bad, worst embarrassment, Let’s not forget that it just happens and sometimes lessons are learnt from it afterwards.
Wanna share yours?  Feel free to send a mail to lifestyleofanaijagirl@gmail.com.

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The second quarter is here!!! Goodbye March.Β 

We are in this together

Wow! the first quarter of the year will be tucked away in history today. 
I know we all had plans for what the first quarter of 2017 would be for ourselves. That is, achieveing goals that could not be fulfilled in 2016.

Goodbye March

If you did reach all your goals for the time period,  oh well, I want to be like you when I grow up ☺.

Make a plan

If you didn’t reach your goals (just like my humble self), at least an effort was made. Well done!  We’ve got to keep pushing. 
If you didn’t plan or have any goals in particular, no worries, you’re not late, you’ve got enough time to get started from where you left off. 

Always remember, that no matter where you are in the course of your journey, no matter how rocky the terrain is,  you should know that you are not alone. We are all in it together.

As we march into the month of April, the beginning of the second quarter in 2017, we never know what could make a world of difference only if we express solemn gratitude to our Creator.

Goodbye March

Here’s sending hugs your way and cheers to the freaking weekend!!!

Happy weekend

Ps: Cow horns and accessories now available incase you want to swear for anyone that catches you with April fool…ORDER NOW πŸ˜€πŸ˜€πŸ˜€πŸ˜€πŸ˜€

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My Eko ile tour

Hey fam! 

A week ago I went on a tour. 

 Guess where? 

In Lagos. (lol) 

Lagos tourist

I have lived in Lagos my whole life, yet there are places I have not been too. I might have heard of the place and where it is, but never been there. Sometimes, when friends talk about places I haven’t been to, I just keep mute and listen. That’s how serious it is. 

When I saw the Eko Ile tour poster on one of my favorite tour page on instagram, I was excited and my brother asked me  ‘Ah Ah! Why are you excited about going to where you pass through almost everytime?’, I replied him saying I don’t even know where we’re going. He said again ‘bia, pay me so I would show you around Lagos’ (πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚ see igbo boy sense).

Freedom park

Anyways, I got ready to go on the tour and get more knowledge about buildings we walk past all the time without knowing the history behind it. 
Take off venue was from a memorial and leisure park in the middle of down town Lagos, Freedom park in Lagos island. It was formerly Her Majesty’s broad street prison and designed by Architect  Theo Lawson

Freedom park.                                                                           

The park was constructed to preserve history and cultural heritage of Nigerians.  It was built to commemorate the 50th anniversary independence celebration in October, 2010.

I got there late and caught up with my group at the St Georges hall (where Rorrrrry gave me a big hug ☺). It was founded in 1904 and consecrated in July, 1905. known as the patron of the Masonic Samaritan fund. The first meetings were held in the forester’s hall at odunlami street Lagos. And the first master of the lodge was W.Bro. Charles  Unaebauer,who in 1913 became the first deputy district grand master of the district of Nigeria. 

I took this

Next stop was the Center for Black and African Arts and Civilization (CBAAC). This was established by 69 of 1979 following the successful and epoch making hosting of the 2nd world black and African Festival of Arts and Culture (FESTAC77). 

Black heritage

This centre houses all the materials which are rare artifacts and cultural items that were used during FESTAC’77. The decision to handover these materials to Nigeria was to reinforce and build upon the gains of historical festival. 

Black heritage
Broad street.                                                                            

Here is the old CMS bookshop. It was established in 1869 and rebuilt in 1917. The new building is just a little further down on the opposite side of the road. 

This here is the Cathedral  Church of Christ Marina. A year doesn’t go by without a new coat of painting. 

Oldest Cathedral

The oldest Cathedral in Nigeria. There’s no way you go to Lagos Island without noticing this beautiful edifice. It serves as the seat of the Bishop of Lagos and the Archbishop of the Ecclesiastical province of Lagos. It was completed in 1946 and the architecture type is Norman Gothic

Oldest cathedral
So beautiful inside

I was glad I went on this tour because I made new friends and learn things I never knew.

Thanks to Kelechi Anabaraonye (IG:@oc wonder) the curator and Rosemary Okoli (IG:@Rorrrrrrrrry) who assisted. 

Here are other pictures  taken on the tour;

Wing of liberty square
Street of Lagos island
Kelechi Anabaraonye (the curator)
Lagos tourist
Black girls on the street
Beautiful!!
Lagos island
Post office building

There are other places I want to visit, I can’t wait for another tour ,I’m up for any as long as there’s food and drinks to sign out ‘The End’ πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚ oh yes I’m such a foodie. 

Photo credit: my humble mobile (Tecno canon C9)

Three tips in how to prepare for a tour; 

1. Wear something very comfortable. That’s is light walk around clothes, slippers or sandal or sneakers.

2. Carry light bags so you don’t get tired after 30 minutes. 

3. A note pad, pen and a camera would help you keep memories of what you’re going to see. 

That’s all for today. ☺ ☺ ☺ 

Hope you had a good read ✌ 

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I have a nickname! Do you?Β 

What’s your nickname?

Did you ever have a nickname? 
(nodding my head) Yes I did. And currently still do  (Lol).

You know, nicknames are so widely recognized that many believe they are the person’s actual name. 

I have a very uncommon name (it’s unique by the way) which you have probably never heard before.  So when people hear it,  they generally say things like  ugh… thats such an usual igbo name, never heard it before, are you sure you’re igbo?  (aunty, na you born me), some even ask what sort of name is this? (Biko, did I complain to you that I don’t like my name) **blinking eyes**.

Unique but uncommon

I find this type of questions annoying and difficult to respond to. I still sympathize with those who make an effort to pronounce it and ask for it’s meaning.

Here’s my story about my nickname as I was told by mum and dad (lol).

Love my nickname

When I born, I was christened the name ODAWAYI as my first name. It’s a unique name from the Igbo tribe and it means one born in the mist of boys and also one born during a festival.  Fortunately, I was born on a general festival day and also in the mist of boys. So I earned to be called ODAWAYI.
My dad told me that as a baby, my immediate elder brother who was still little, couldn’t pronounce the name so well. He always ended up calling the last part of my name which sounds like the letter Y. He got tired of rolling his tongue to call my name and made the last sound like a double Y which is Yy.

Thanks big brother

Since then, everyone started calling me Yy  or spelt waiwai. It doesn’t have a meaning. It’s just the last sound of my name made in double sound (hope you understand what I mean) And you must really know me to call me by my nickname.
In primary school, my name was murdered a lot. In high school, it was terrible that I just told them please call me waiwai. I got to university and everyone just loved the name when my cousin would not just stop calling me by my nickname.

At some point it felt embarrassing to be called waiwai in school. But when I saw everyone loved it I just enjoyed being called like that. I like my nickname cos its cool and everyone loves it.   

What about you? 

Do you have a nickname?

Do you wanna share? 

Feel free to like,comment and share ☺ 

Have a great week ahead 😘 😘 

Guess who’s feeling nostalgic!!!

Nostalgic childhood experience
Fun times as kids

Growing up was fun for me. There was the good and cry cry moment. I really love cartoons till date but then my mom and an aunt that was staying over made it somewhat compulsory to watch home videos (Nollywood movies).

Nostalgic childhood experience
Karashika

We watched the likes of nneka the pretty serpernt, Igodo, karashika, full moon, ayamatanga and other scary movies. Guess what? We always saw these movies at night after my dad is done with 10pm news and retired for the night.

My mum was the soul contributor of these home videos. She would give my aunt money to hire the videos for the weekend. After a while, she got tired of the weekend cinema thing and started requesting for the videos everyday (how addictive that was).
One evening, it was time to watch a particular movie and it wasn’t close to the weekend yet but I and my siblings sneaked ourselves to the living room to participate too. It was a movie we named Ayamatanga (can’t remember the exact name though). It was a scary movie with witches here and there. As we finished watching and retired to bed, PHCN struck.  My aunt asked me to pee before I go lay in bed, I didn’t. And I couldn’t sleep, I kept seeing all the witches flying up and down in my head.

Nostalgic childhood experience
Scared to pee

Then I felt the urge to pee,  geez! I couldn’t move.  I tried to wake my aunt to take me to the toilet, she didn’t bulge at all. Fear no gree me stand up ooooo. I started to think of all the Power Rangers move to do to rush to the toilet and back to bed in a jiffy because the house was awfully quiet and no power.

Nostalgic childhood experience
To scared to pee

I couldn’t  sleep cos my bladder was full and ready to burst,  I had to go myself and it wasn’t like the toilet was far away from the bedroom. I rushed out of bed got into the toilet and sat to pee hurriedly,to think I was gonna pee and leave immediately, boy was I wrong.  It was a long freaking pee that got interrupted when something ran past my toes. Yikes!!!

Nostalgic childhood experience
Yikes!!!

I just rushed out screaming Ayamatanga oooo, Ayamatanga oooooo mummyyyyyy save meeeee.  I woke everyone up at 3am.
Mum and dad rushed out of their room to see what had happened to their precious daughter with lantern. I was just pointing to the toilet and saying Ayamatanga is there. They looked and saw two cockroaches in there and killed it.

Nostalgic childhood experience
Too scared

My dad calmed me down and took me to his room to sleep. While in between them in bed, I heard dad ask mum which one is Ayamatanga? where did she learn that one from? I suspect Uloma teaching these children nonsense. My mum kept quiet like she didn’t know what he was asking.

The next day, after I and my siblings returned from school. Uloma(my aunt) punished me for making my dad scold her for teaching us nonsense. Then mum banned us from watching home videos with her and Uloma. We jejely stuck with our cartoon and kiddies shows.

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Have a good day!!! 

My Orientation camp Boulevard 1

Admin offices

Happy new month 🎊 🎊 

Heading to a new state and environment is some kinda adventure I always look forward to. I always love to hear the words “Let’s travel”, it’s like giving me cake and ice-cream to bribe my addicted soul (it’s that bad).

This time around, the feeling I got when I got my posting letter to go obey the clarion call came with mixed feelings. When my brother told me ‘You’re going to Taraba state’, I died and woke up. 

WTH!!!  

It wasn’t Taraba I had in mind na, what kinda punishment is this?

And I was to leave in less than a week to Taraba state which is in the northern part in Nigeria, is a 20hrs ride (2days). I was heartbroken, there was no excitement because I wanted Ogun state (I cried, it was that bad).
Remember how you felt while moving to Uni? Get registered, get bunk space, get mattress, get this, get that with thousands of people from all parts. I was told by my brothers how to scale through. 

I got ready for batch B stream 2 which was in  January and off I went to Taraba state to spend 21days. Met some cool peeps on the bus and we just connected through out camp.

The journey wasn’t funny at all. It was a very longgggg one but I just had to endure. My long legs got swollen from the trip. There was a stop over in a village in Benue state and in our minds we thought we were close, until we rode for 8 more hours to get to the capital Jalingo, that we realized how much we love where we come from. 

FINALLY!!! 

We got to orientation camp Jalingo, after hours of nothing to look at again. We dragged our sorry arse off the bus to the gate where we were searched and asked to provide our medical report the soldiers. I showed them at the gates and was directed to the medical clinic. There was a crowd waiting and so I joined. I forgot I needed a bed space, until a kind hearted girl reminded me about it.

SAED taking place

To get the medical team attend to you was war, I had to go about other registration before the medical report was cleared. I got my kit and my crested vest a white was like agbada, my khaki pants were tight with no allowance to make amends. I had to manage everything. What of my white shorts?  Both were like what I would wear underneath a dress or skirt.  (the tailor deserves several knock) thank goodness I brought lots of white shirts and shorts.

Camp began properly by 4pm as they assembled us at the parade ground which is as wide as a stadium. Hostels clean, toilet and bathroom clean, food from kitchen was good as well. I ate qkitchen food most times because i wanted to try the variety of meals prepared. We had lots of meat as well.

Parade ground

Taraba state weather is cool,  its either hot or cold and the wind of dust is always annoying. Then it can become extreme when the weather decides to out shine each other. The morning drills were killing because it was always cold to shower. I got use to the new routine, joined sanitation group and drama.

Platoon 2 sanitation group

In all, it turned out to be a wonderful experience that I didn’t want camp to come to an end (yimu). I took a bus back to Lagos immediately after the closing ceremony and I didn’t get a posting letter, I just knew my prayer worked. I was redployed, to where?  I don’t know. It will be continued.

Anyways, that’s about what I can  put up today so I don’t bore you with my tale. 

Thanks for stopping by.

A day out at Tarkwa bay Island

Tarkwa bay island

I have always thought about taking a trip to a cool place with friends just to have fun, since our weather is not so friendly.
The thought then became a reality after I voiced out to some group of friends and it turned out to be a great experience afterall. 

Tarkwa bay island

Tarkwa bay became a much talked about adventure island in my home when I started to see various fun pictures on social media (especially Instagram). I am not one who loves to hang out at the beach, it might just be the way elegushi beach has been used over time. No interesting thing to look at, no huts to stay in if you’re not swimming (I don’t swim), loud music everywhere, and it smells a lot. 
Now, Tarkwa bay island caught my curious mind about why it’s so much cooler (if that word exist) for me to go visit. So we started to make inquiries and got prepared.  

So, we got our own food and drinks, our own DJ and basically everything needed. 

Wiggle wiggle
Selfie game on

The blissful Tarkwa bay beach is located some kilometers offshore away from the busy Lagos island. 

To get to the beach, you’ll need to take a boat ride which will take about 15-20 minutes. You’ll be treated to amazing views of popular spots in Lagos while cruising. 

Oh! that’s not me πŸ˜‚
Boat cruise 🚒
We love groove
Coconut water on point
Life jacket for safety
Say Tarkwa!

It’s always fun to go as a group, so you can have as much fun as you want. 

Fives tips you need to know about a successful hangout at the beach;

1. Make sure you make inquiries about where you’re going to. How long is the trip, How many hours you’ll spend there and all. 

2. Make sure you take enough food, cos the excitement about being on the island will make you wanna eat a lot. 

3. Bring lots of games: for those who can’t swim like myself,  get them busy with board games or any other game. 

4. Make sure as you bring lots of food,  a lot of water should be inclusive. You’d be surprised. 

5. Make sure you wear something comfortable like slippers or sandals. No sneakers, or high heels.  It beats me people still wear those to the beach. 

Hope you had fun reading?

Thanks so much for stopping by πŸ’ƒ πŸ’ƒ. 

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