Hear Ye! Hear Ye!! Hear Ye!!!
I’m just trying to help some of us understand what sustaining a relationship or being in a relationship is all about. Because the type of relationship I see floating around, it’s so annoying. But I ain’t no relationship expert, what do I know? *tongue click*.
Let this be known that love doesn’t guarantee the success of a relationship neither does it cost any thing.
Love cannot help you stick to one person all year round, and on the other hand, “cheating” isn’t always a product of not loving your partner.
In fact, loving someone doesn’t guarantee not falling in love with someone else.
Relationships work out mostly because of our head not our heart. It works out because of our emotional maturity, empathetic intelligence and self discipline because, time will come when you’ll see more beautiful, handsome, romantic, intelligent, sexy, rich, curvy and God fearing people than the one you’re in a relationship with.
In those times, love will not help you one bit (at all); self control will help you, emotional intelligence will come to your rescue and commitment will keep you going. With these characteristics, no matter how you feel for someone else, the person you’re committed to will be ranked first in your life. But that wouldn’t stop or kill the love or feelings you have for others.
You think happily married people don’t see better people than the ones they married?
You think they don’t feel funny sometimes?
You think they don’t catch feelings? Nwannem they do!
But understanding that commitment is greater than feelings is the great arsenal that do destroy that impulse.
You can fall in love with anyone, but building a relationship takes absolutely more than what attracted you to them and takes more than love.
We are too fond of loving when it’s convenient and sweet. We are too fond of loving when love is there but that can only last for just the first 3-6 months of the relationship. After then, you’ll realise that the feelings have dropped, it’s now your responsibility to make it work, not love’s responsibility.
Relationships cannot be readymade. You have to build it and it’s never always about love, it requires commitment and intelligence. On the long run in marriages, it’s not just love that keeps them together forever, it’s determination and commitment.
Everyone falls in love; it takes little or no effort to do that. But staying in love? Building a relationship? Only the strong and committed ones do that.
That’s why we must find that one person and commit to that one, discipline yourself and bridle your emotions.
Building a relationship is hard work, it’s like building a career, It’s like pursuing a dream. It’s always tough, at some point it will be so bitter but you can make it work by putting your heads together, you can scale through the trying time by being focused and committed. I give it up to all parents especially mine, at times I ask and wonder how they kept it working, and I was made to understand most of what i know from them, they were just like loving siblings.
The kind of love that attracts two people together is not the kind of love that will keep them together. Be emotionally strong and be self disciplined.
That’s why i share this with the young adults, married and unmarried couples, in order not to make the mistake in giving up on him or her, key word is determination and commitment, so we don’t have an excuse for divorce and violence.
This was sent in by
Chipson Osita ; IG: @chipson_ciroc
He is well read and loves to share his thoughts on random topics. But very much involved in the entertainment industry.
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